Whenever I complain about Lily’s MANY potty training regressions (which I will write about later this week), some clueless “friend” with a similar age child says something along the lines of “Oh, I KNOW. Little Amelia wet the bed TWICE this week! I just don’t know what’s going on!”
To which I say bite me. These people really are friends and I’m sure they don’t mean to belittle me, but nighttime accidents are the least of my worries even now, 9 months after the potty training finally sort of “clicked” (and more than 2 years after her short-lived potty training prodigy stage).
Lily is not potty trained for night by any stretch of the imagination. In fact, we haven’t even attempted to put her to bed in underwear despite our potty training book’s insistence that we start out this way. We have a very good reason for this.
Lily has apparently come to the conclusion that there is an invisible force field around her bed preventing her from ever leaving it without my help.
She has never once left her bed in the morning or otherwise without my help. I’ve endlessly explained to her that she can and SHOULD get out of the bed to use the potty or come find me in the morning, but she never ever has.
Even when I put her in her room for time out in the middle of the day with the door open, she doesn’t leave her room to use the bathroom. She has an accident instead. If that’s what’s happening during the day, there’s no way she’s waking up at night and leaving her room to use the bathroom or even calling me to help her out of bed to use the bathroom.
Not only does she not leave her bed, but she doesn’t speak while she’s in it either. I am supposed to magically realize she’s awake and come rescue her from the bed, which makes me believe the invisible force field must also be soundproof. She usually wakes up super late in the morning, 9:30 a.m. is pretty common despite going to bed at 8:30 p.m., but for all I know she’s been up since 6 a.m. and just hasn’t let me know about it.
I don’t know how to get over this hurtle. I’ve explained time and time again why she needs to get out of bed to use the potty, but every morning when I discover she’s awake, her pull-up is freshly soaked. I could explain how I know it’s fresh pee, but you probably don’t want to hear about it.
So for now, I just operate under the assumption that someday, like the potty seat bag, this too shall pass. Until this happens, I will glare at the moms who whine that their 3 year old just wet the bed. PLEASE. I could only be so lucky!