The Force Field (aka Why I Ignore Nighttime Pee)

Whenever I complain about Lily’s MANY potty training regressions (which I will write about later this week), some clueless “friend” with a similar age child says something along the lines of “Oh, I KNOW. Little Amelia wet the bed TWICE this week! I just don’t know what’s going on!”

To which I say bite me. These people really are friends and I’m sure they don’t mean to belittle me, but nighttime accidents are the least of my worries even now, 9 months after the potty training finally sort of “clicked” (and more than 2 years after her short-lived potty training prodigy stage).

Lily is not potty trained for night by any stretch of the imagination. In fact, we haven’t even attempted to put her to bed in underwear despite our potty training book’s insistence that we start out this way. We have a very good reason for this.

Lily has apparently come to the conclusion that there is an invisible force field around her bed preventing her from ever leaving it without my help.

She has never once left her bed in the morning or otherwise without my help. I’ve endlessly explained to her that she can and SHOULD get out of the bed to use the potty or come find me in the morning, but she never ever has.

Even when I put her in her room for time out in the middle of the day with the door open, she doesn’t leave her room to use the bathroom. She has an accident instead. If that’s what’s happening during the day, there’s no way she’s waking up at night and leaving her room to use the bathroom or even calling me to help her out of bed to use the bathroom.

Not only does she not leave her bed, but she doesn’t speak while she’s in it either. I am supposed to magically realize she’s awake and come rescue her from the bed, which makes me believe the invisible force field must also be soundproof. She usually wakes up super late in the morning, 9:30 a.m. is pretty common despite going to bed at 8:30 p.m., but for all I know she’s been up since 6 a.m. and just hasn’t let me know about it.

I don’t know how to get over this hurtle. I’ve explained time and time again why she needs to get out of bed to use the potty, but every morning when I discover she’s awake, her pull-up is freshly soaked. I could explain how I know it’s fresh pee, but you probably don’t want to hear about it.

So for now, I just operate under the assumption that someday, like the potty seat bag, this too shall pass. Until this happens, I will glare at the moms who whine that their 3 year old just wet the bed. PLEASE. I could only be so lucky!

Tomorrow: Why we almost had to withdraw from preschool after Lily was roughly potty trained at home, with another crudely drawn cartoon. Friday: How regressions are the root of all evil.



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5 Responses to The Force Field (aka Why I Ignore Nighttime Pee)

  1. Trigem

    Where can I get one of these force fields? I would love just one night where my three year old did not climb in bed with me. No matter how many times I send her back, she is still in my bed in the morning.

    We do make a trip or two to the potty but still I’d rather have pull ups and sleep.

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  3. River Girl

    Hang in there. My son wet the bed until he was 6 years old. Pediatrician said sometimes it takes 7 years for bladder to mature. I think it might be hereditary, as both my brothers and my husband used to wet the bed. Son was such a deep sleeper that the prank fire alarm in our apartment hallway corridor didn’t wake him up. I used to make his bed twice: waterproof mattress pad, sheets, another waterproof mattress pad, sheets, so we could just rip off the wet ones in the middle of the night while he cleaned up, and get back to bed. I finally gave in and bought a pee alarm. Barbaric and traumatizing thing, but after 3 weeks of piercing alarms, and a full sticker chart for dry nights. it worked. Seven years later, we all still wake up in the middle of the night, though.
    I really like your blog. Glad I found it!

    • Thanks!

      I would be totally ok with her having accidents at night. I understand some kids take a long time to develop the ability to sense when they need to go while they are sleeping. Our problem is that I’m pretty sure she’s awake when this happens, but doesn’t tell me or leave her room. She just pees in her pull-up while she’s waiting for me to discover she’s up for the day!

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