Almost three years ago, I banished our toddler-sized table to the basement. Lily couldn’t walk yet, but she was a daring climber and kept getting herself on top of the table and pulling herself up on the back of the couch to standing. Then she’d let go and just stand there on unsteady feet. I was terrified she’d fall off the table and bash her head open on a chair. She kept climbing up over and over and over again and I couldn’t handle the stress of monitoring her with it, so it’s lived in our basement ever since.
Saturday we had a bunch of people over for a barbecue and I had my husband bring the table up while Rose was napping. She’d never seen the table before and got super excited when she woke up and discovered it in our dining area.
What happened next just highlights the extreme contrast between our two girls. As I posted earlier this week, Lily wanted nothing to do with princess costumes in her ballet class. She’s never been into dolls and hates princess movies. We’ve never had a tea party because she has no interest in pretending like her dolls and stuffed animals are doing anything besides being dolls and stuffed animals. She would rather do a puzzle, build with blocks or play obsessively with letters and numbers than ever do these things. We think she’s an engineer in the making.
Rose saw this table, squealed and immediately ran to get a stuffed panda and a doll, whom she set up in the chairs around the table. She then got some cups and promptly started serving her little “friends” drinks.
Rose is only 20 months old and has never had a tea party because Lily was so uninterested in such things that I never bought a proper set and stopped trying for tea parties with other makeshift materials. Rose thought to do this all on her own. I asked her if she was having a tea party and she started screaming “PARTY! PARTY! PARTY!” and continued to serve her “friends”. If anyone tried to move one of her “friends”, she’d scream out in protest. This was HER table and HER party and even real little girl friends who’d come to visit us were not allowed to interrupt her.
When Lily saw that Rose was having a tea party with her “friends”, Lily got really upset.
“I don’t want to have a pretend party! I want to have a real party! I don’t want to drink tea with stuffed animals!”
Ok then. (Lucky for her, we WERE having a real “party” that day. Not sure what to do the next time Rose has a “party”.)
So, I need to get Rose a real tea set, but avoid anything girly-related for my tomboy (except for ballet).
Are these girls even related? I’m pretty sure we took the right babies home… I mean, how many half Korean baby girls could have been born those particular days?